The world charms its victims with the “feel good” philosophy of our day. The world teaches that there is no right or wrong; it’s all relative. The world entices with pleasure and rejects self-sacrifice.
The Word of God says that the man who says no to the world and yes to God is happy, fortunate, and to be envied because he fears, reveres, and worships the Lord (see Ps.1). A godly man will walk in the path God has set before him according to the commandments He has given.
Godly Husbands Need Godly Wives Anne Reed, who is considered an expert in the field of pastoral counseling, serves alongside my husband and me at our church. She states that women often think they know what they want, but they are unwilling to allow God to develop in a man the qualities and attributes that will make him the true desire of their heart.
Godliness in a man is sometimes contingent upon the woman’s allowing God to take over. Reed asserts that although manipulation of a man may be labeled cute or funny, God says this is witchcraft. Manipulation and control are Satan’s way of inserting himself into the relationship.
Reed challenges women to cooperate with God in developing qualities in their husbands and to remember that God gave His Spirit to each of us. She counsels them to draw on His gifts of wisdom, understanding, good judgment and strength, and to trust that He will give counsel for correction.
Reed deems it important to remind women that there is absolutely no passage in the Bible where we are given the mandate or authority to take on the Holy Spirit’s role. You are to be only what God requires of you. Becoming your husband’s Holy Spirit is not a requirement–indeed, it is blasphemy for you to assume that role.
As you pray for the man in your life, remember that a godly husband deserves a godly wife. You must have a fervent commitment to the Lord.
You must learn to hear the voice of God and live according to His plan. This will bring you blessings untold and a soul satisfaction that will be incomparable to anything else.
As a woman, you must refuse the roles society has laid out for you and, like your husband, say no to the world’s distractions. With God’s help you can become the godly woman your husband needs and help him become the man God destined him to be.
Diana Hagee is the co-author with her husband, John, of What Every Man Wants in a Woman; What Every Woman Wants in a Man, published by Charisma House, from which this article is adapted.
