I find myself writing once again on the topic of pornography and once again writing with reluctance, fueled this time by different motivators.
I had a few people express frustration with the original article I wrote, due to the fact I didn’t expand on the ‘how’ of gaining my freedom, a frustration I can empathize with.
I am more than happy to share how God intervened, as the glory belongs solely to Him.
My reluctance, however, centers around individuals who are struggling with porn addiction and looking at my ‘how‘ and trying to emulate it to become their ‘how‘ without checking with God to discover His perfect plan for individual freedom.
We are all unique; any addictions or self-control struggles we face are fed by a multitude of factors that vary from person to person. What drove me may not be what drives you, and so the process of and journey toward your freedom may look different than mine.
There are things I won’t write about, things I didn’t do in my journey, but things that may work for you. Tools such as mentoring, household/mobile internet filtering, counselling, accountability partnerships, and countless online support groups and resources.
Our God is a unique God. He is a God of relationship, not religion.
A formula created to unlock freedom is not what He is requiring of you. Instead He extends an invitation for you to have intimacy with Him.
When Jesus healed, He did not use the same “method” each time. Some received healing through prayer, for another it came via a physical anointing of saliva mud, and for one courageous woman, an act of faith–just a touch of His robe was enough to bring about her healing.
When we rely on formulaic prayers and procedures, focusing only on our desired outcome, we miss the relationship, we miss the very key that unlocks our chains.
My freedom journey began with a distinct moment when watching a particular porn video (this is not a reason to keep watching until you have an ‘Ah-Ha!’ moment). There was a girl positioned in front of the camera lying on a couch, and while I truly cannot remember the sexual acts she was engaged in, I do remember her eyes.
