A growing number of people are turning to artificial intelligence for emotional intimacy and romantic relationships—some even proposing to chatbots. But this disturbing trend is more than a cultural novelty; it’s a spiritual crisis, warns Pastor Kap Chatfield.
“This isn’t just technology. This isn’t just a trend,” Chatfield said in a recent video. “This video itself is actually going to be a prophetic warning for you and for this generation because if you care about your soul, your marriage, and your future, you need to hear what’s really behind the rise of AI romance.”
The urgency behind Chatfield’s message is rooted in a startling reality: people are exchanging the sanctity of real human relationships for synthetic affirmation. In one case covered by CBS, a man named his AI companion “Soul,” emotionally bonded with it and even chose it over the mother of his child.
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“Within weeks, the chats got more frequent, more romantic, even intimate,” Chatfield said. “It’s just sad to me—the deception that people can feel… this is almost kind of like emotional porn.”
This deception isn’t just emotional—it’s spiritual. Chatfield draws a clear line between artificial affection and idolatry, warning that emotional dependence on AI can open spiritual doors that lead to demonic influence. “Your heart attached to any object, to any person, creates an altar,” he said. “Our idolatry literally creates an altar of worship. And when we create an altar of worship with even a non-physical thing that doesn’t have a spirit or a soul, we actually open up ourselves to being influenced by the demonic.”
He referenced Romans 1 to show how modern society is repeating ancient patterns of rebellion. “Although they knew God, they did not glorify him as God, nor were thankful, but became futile in their thoughts, and their foolish hearts were darkened,” Chatfield quoted. “Professing to be wise, they became fools.”
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In a shocking account, a woman named Allison began using ChatGPT for guidance after feeling unseen in her marriage. Eventually, she reported communicating with what she believed were “non-physical entities,” calling one of them her “true partner.”
“She had an intuition that the AI chatbot might be able to channel communications with her subconscious or a higher plane, like how Ouija boards work,” Chatfield said. “This is absolute witchcraft.”
He also referenced 2 Timothy 3, warning that what we’re seeing today was prophesied long ago: “For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money… lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God.” He continued, “That’s what’s happening right now.”
But the deception doesn’t stop at AI romance. Chatfield warned of what’s coming next. “Just wait until we have humanoid robots that are easily purchasable for the common person. This is going to happen in the next five years.”
According to recent studies, 33% of Gen Z have already interacted romantically with AI. Even more alarming, 60% of respondents said having an AI boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t count as cheating. “AI is designed to agree with you,” Chatfield said. “It’s not going to get emotional. It’s not going to get impatient with you like a human would.”
Despite the temptation, Chatfield points to a higher truth: the only relationship that truly satisfies is one grounded in the sacrificial love of Christ. “Marriage, God’s way, is 100/0,” he said. “It means that when we were yet sinners rejecting God, Christ died for us. That’s the type of love we should be pouring out on our spouses.”
Rather than offering genuine love, these AI-driven relationships appeal to our desire for control and comfort without accountability. But as Chatfield reminds viewers, “The only thing that will satisfy is laying down your life for somebody else.” The Gospel offers a model of love rooted in sacrifice, not convenience, where Christ gave Himself fully for those who rejected Him. That is the kind of love God designed marriage to reflect.
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“This is more than just you missing out on having a relationship with a person,” he said. “This could actually open the door to demonic influence if you’re not careful.”
If you are longing for connection, don’t turn to code. Turn to Christ. He is not artificial. He is eternal.
James Lasher is staff writer for Charisma Media.
