He offers the following list of suggestions:
- No media for one, two, or three weeks
- No cellphone for one, two or three days
- Walk to work
- Pick up trash for two to four hours
- Give money to a political or nonprofit organization you really disagree with
- Eat a raw onion
- Run two miles (if you’re not in shape)
“Get a rubber band and place it around your wrist for at least 30 days,” Weiss writes on page 91. “Every time you lust, objectify, double take, rubber neck or have a past image hit your brain, snap the rubber band.”
“Men have told me over the years that this negative reinforcement has shut down as much as 80 percent of their lust life and reduced the power of their land mines within a month,” he said. “Some men have found it helpful to quote a Scripture after they snap the rubber band.”
Scriptures to Keep on Hand
Weiss offered the following examples of Bible verses that have been helpful in refocusing men’s attention and healing their brains:
- “(Treat) older women as mothers and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity” (1 Tim. 5:2).
- “What shall we say, then? Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase?” (Rom. 6:1).
- Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy, think about such things” (Phil. 4:8).
- “Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God, this is your spiritual act of worship” (Rom. 12:1).
“If you don’t have an accountability partner, get one,” Weiss writes. “The enemy of your soul looks for easy prey. The easiest prey for our enemy is a man who is not honest or accountable; in other words, he is alone” (pg. 93).
“‘You have loved righteousness and hated wickedness,'” he said, quoting Psalm 45:7. “Jesus not only loved righteousness, he hated wickedness. I believe there is a place in our hearts in which we need not to coddle our lust and sexual sin—we must hate it” (pg. 97).
“Unfortunately, your flesh doesn’t change overnight. Be persistent,” he adds on pg. 94.
Authority Over the Nations
Weiss tells groups everywhere he goes the rewards of freedom are awesome. He points to what the resurrected Jesus told a church afflicted with sexual sin in the book of Revelation.
“If you just die to that thing, kill that and just live for me and don’t be duplicative sexually—be monogamous sexually—then I’ll give you authority over the nations,” Weiss said, paraphrasing Jesus.
He related how the path of his own life shows it.
“That’s what we do: We help heal others from sex addiction all across the globe,” he said. “I’ve set thousands of people free, seeing them get well.”
Weiss also shared that freedom will make your marriage better and very likely bring you prosperity.
You Could Double Your Income
“Most of the guys I work with doubled their incomes within 12 months of being free,” he stated.
How could the two possibly be linked in recovering addicts’ lives?
“Their self-esteem goes up, their creativity goes up, their spiritual and moral and emotional maturity. Their marriage level of satisfaction is higher. So they’re just much more productive beings,” Weiss explained.
“And without the guilt and shame, without the thing that says, ‘If you really knew me, you wouldn’t love me,’ eating at you every day,” he added. “You are free to create, you are free to prosper, you are free to connect, and the favor of God comes on your life.”
Weiss said to get there will take swallowing your pride and opening up.
“It’s going to hurt. But one bad day of being honest is better than decades of struggling,” he said.
Many addicts stay addicted for decades because they are so afraid of that one moment of telling the truth.
“Anybody can get free if they’ll get honest and they get accountable,” Weiss assured. “I started accountability with my roommate in seminary. And then you start getting free. And free is so much better than trapped.”
