It has been called “The History-Making Gay Kiss,” as The Fosters TV show, which airs during prime time on the ABC Family network, featured the “Youngest Same-Sex TV Kiss Ever.” Yes, on a so-called “family friendly” network, two 13-year-old boys locked lips, and gay activists and their allies are celebrating the moment.
GLAAD, formally known as the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation, stated that, “ABC Family’s The Fosters breaks new ground with Jude and Connor’s kiss.” (For those who are not familiar with the show, Jude is raised by two lesbians, his adoptive parents.)
Gabe Bergado, writing for the Daily Beast, claimed that the kiss set “a fantastic standard,” one that “reassures all the real-life Judes and Connors out there that their feelings of self-discovery during those middle school and junior high years are valid.”
Personally, I find this is heartbreaking not heartwarming, tragic not terrific.
First, there is the power of example, either for good or for bad.
Young people in particular are influenced by what they see on TV and in the movies, with little boys dressing up like Superman or Spiderman and little girls mimicking the looks of the latest starlet.
As they get older, it’s not just a matter of playing silly dress-up games. Instead, these kids are now emulating the lifestyles of those they follow, and so a sexy dance to a 14-year-old looks a whole lot different than it did when the child was 5.
I can testify firsthand to the power of negative examples.
I started playing drums at the age of 8, and when I was 13, I went to my first rock concert, seeing the Jimi Hendrix Experience at the New York Philharmonic in 1968. And it really was an experience.
Everything about the band was countercultural and radical, appealing to my flesh and drawing me in. I wanted to be like the rock stars!
So, when I was just 14 years-old and was offered a joint for the first time, I thought to myself, “The rock stars get high, so I think I’ll try it.”
There was also a subtle pull to do something illicit, but I’m 100 percent sure that without the influence of rock music and rock culture, I never would have thought of getting high at that point of life.
The rest, as they say, is history, as I went from pot to hash to LSD and ups and downs to snorting speed to shooting speed and then heroin and cocaine and other drugs before the Lord graciously saved me at the age of 16 in 1971.
Negative examples played a powerful role in my descent into drug abuse, opening that all-important initial door.
Is it any coincidence, then, that girl-on-girl kissing and sex scenes have been the Hollywood rage for some years and that bisexual experimentation among girls as young as 12 has become increasingly common? (Numerous teachers, social workers and students have told me about the epidemic of bisexual experimentation among schoolgirls today.)
Is it any coincidence that back in 2003, Madonna and Brittney Spears kissed on national TV and, more recently, Katie Perry kissed a girl and liked it, and now lots of other girls are doing the same?
