Use the lists you created in the previous step to discover what your loved ones’ priorities really are and decide how you will use your time. What are your family’s favorite baked goods? Ours are baking pumpkin bread, making Chex mix, baking sugar cookies, and making tamales. When my kids lived at home, we would plan a day or an evening for the actual baking of baked goods and schedule several days for making tamales. We even involved our small groups at church. If your children’s classrooms are hosting Christmas gatherings you are helping organize (but they fall on the same day), involve your husband, grandma, or even a favorite aunt so you don’t feel like you have to be in two places at once.
Say “no.” That’s right. It’s OK to say, “No, we have other plans.” Even if your “other plans” are to stay home with your family and finish frosting sugar cookies for tomorrow’s class party. No guilt, no pressure—just honest self-control and wise time management. Your own children are going to learn a lot from you this year.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, and self-control; against such there is no law” (Galatians 5:22–23, MEV).
C: Create a Budget
Go back to your list of how you and your family plan to celebrate Christmas. Do you have a large immediate family? What about extended family? Figure out how much money you are able to spend on each person and make another list of items so your children can help with the shopping. You don’t have to spend a lot of money on special gifts outside your immediate family. Pinterest is a great resource full of ideas for do-it-yourself crafts and creating memory ideas your children can make for relatives and friends. Mark your calendar and plan ahead for a Christmas gift-making craft day.
Have your children given you their Christmas lists? Also have them create a list of items they want to give at Christmas. If we don’t teach our children how to share out of abundance, we will actually teach and reinforce selfishness. It helps to explain to them. “When we get new things, we must get rid of some old ones to make room.” It’s the principle of the most not-believed beatitude in the Bible found in Acts 20:35: “It is more blessed to give than to receive.” Can the giver be happier than the receiver? Although it goes against all of our human instincts, it is true. This is a very important kingdom principle best taught in life situations.
“John answered, ‘Anyone who has two shirts should share with the one who has none, and anyone who has food should do the sam.'” (Luke 3:11, NIV).
E: Experience Jesus
Invite God’s presence to take over your lists, plans, and desires. Ask Jesus to rule how you focus your time.
