Sun. Aug 3rd, 2025

How a Married Mom Found Freedom From Porn

Bek Curtis

Our sons need not suffer sexual dysfunction because the images that are on repeat in their mind, have formed a new and flawed perception of ‘normal’.

We need to tell our kids not to avoid porn just because it’s wrong, but why it is so wrong.
We need to explain exactly how it devalues both sexes, and damages soul and spirit.

If I, as an adult woman over the age of 25, whose brain had finished developing, could have had her thinking rewired by viewing pornography, how much more susceptible are our adolescent kids to damage from pornographic material?

We need to educate our children about exactly what it is that the porn industry is feeding into: sex slavery, human trafficking, child exploitation.

I literally had no idea that this industry was fueling a hellish existence for so many young women, and men too.

I wonder, had I known back then, what I know now, would porn have been any kind of turn-on at all?

We shouldn’t educate our children in order to guilt them, but rather to equip them, to empower them to make choices that benefit not only themselves, but others also.

We need to teach our kids not that sex is dirty or wrong, but that it is quite the opposite.

Sometimes marriage sucks! It’s not all white picket fences and fields of flowers. Sometimes it’s just tumbleweeds and barbed wire. But to have the privilege of becoming one flesh with someone who totally gets you and is committed to you during the hard times, is a gift that should not be undervalued by images of lust, undervalued by a world that trades in old for new, and is hell-bent on instant gratification.

We need to tell our kids that we understand and remember what it is like to have raging hormones, to tell them we understand what it is like to be sexually curious, to be sexually aroused.

We need to teach them healthy ways to deal with that arousal, and the sexual frustration that those raging hormones bring.

We need to ask our kids how we can support them, and if they’re not really sure how, we need to suggest ways. We need to suggest mentors or trusted adults that they can talk openly with and journey with.

We need to teach our kids that God designed sex, not just as a means for procreation, but for enjoyment and discovery. He’s not up in the sky sitting on a cloud with a cup of tea, muttering to Himself, “Oh dear, that’s a new one, didn’t think of that. Filthy humans.”

We need to teach our kids that God not only created sex, but the whole biological system responsible for switching on sexual desire.

We need to teach them that our God is an approachable God, that He is more than happy to provide a way to deal with whatever struggles we face in life, including sexual struggle.

And above all that, we need to believe that of our God! We need to experience that of Him! We need to share with our kids, how and when God has stepped in to provide a way out for us. That means inviting Him into our difficult situations, so He can do just that.

I am the mother of a teenage son.

We can protect and shelter him all we like, but eventually he will discover the world, as he is supposed to.

He will grow and mature, and set his own boundaries and parameters.

He will decide what paths he takes and what lines he’ll cross.

And we will love him and support him all the way.

But while he is still under our roof, within our grasp, and accountable to us, we will have the difficult conversations.

We will tell him where we’ve failed.

We will tell him the outcomes of our failure and where we wish we’d taken different paths.

We will be real, we will be unedited.

But most of all, we will emphasize grace.

Grace for failure.

Grace for poor decisions.

Grace for outright rebellion.

Grace for a journey, and not just a quick fix.

Grace for forgiveness.

Grace for redemption.

Grace for transformation.

Grace for us as parents to recognize transformation, as we chose to forget indiscretion.

Bek Curtis is an Australian-based blogger. Check out her blog, Perfectly Flawed.

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